
I tend to think of myself as a very even-keeled person - someone who is fairly laid back overall and maintains her composure in stressful situations. But, in 2011, that hasn't been the case. At. All.
I think it's a combination of age (41) and the daily stressors I experience in my business. With my age, I'd probably be more emotional (read: prone to tearing up) anyway. But since I'm experiencing the aging process in conjunction with the craziness of running my fabric company, I find myself straying far from a calm & cool exterior. I'm an outlier on my own x & y chart of life! ha.
Last week, oh at about 4pm Tuesday, I hit what I would call an emotional apex. Aside from personal tragedy, I have never been so angry, frustrated, upset or mystified in my entire life at how little was coming together as I planned. This coincided with another personal event that needed to be dealt with immediately, and I felt myself come unglued, unhinged, unable to reign myself in, thinking ugly and unsafe thoughts. And despite my state of mind, there was still a quiet voice of reason in my head who took over, made me trudge on and fix what was broken. That voice knew I had no choice, that I had to be more flexible and that everything would work out. So, today, a week and a few days later, things are ducky. I am thankful - soooo thankful!
As my business has grown, it's a necessity to hold my cards closer - cards that include hearts that break when things go awry. It's not smart business to bare-all & tell-all. However, I know I'm not the only one who experiences these ultra-ultra-low points. What worked for me was reaching deeper within myself to find pockets of hidden strength and the passion that fueled my fire in the first place. From there, it was possible to find solutions and make things happen. I kept reminding myself that I didn't go into business to become a crying, b*tchy, drama-filled mess - so I had better get my $hit straight immediately. One foot in front of the other...
For those of you out there who aspire to take your business to the next level like I did these past 2 years, it may seem like it's all blue skies & giggles - but please know that many days it's thunderstorms & tears, whether you've mapped out your path or not. That is not meant to dissuade you from going after your dream; just a dose of honesty about The Dark Side that isn't often chatted about in public. However, it's the comprehensive experience of ALL of these things - good & lovely as well as bad & rotten, that allows one to become more savvy, more creative and more capable. And the net-net of that can be just where hard work and magic come together!
Happy Friday! Hope things are ducky for you, too - and if not, that you're finding a way to get it back!
xo
Jan